I tried to go to PC mods but I'm getting some wierd replies.

So I'm asking this forum in general; is there a mod that makes the Handmaiden automatically chosen instead of having the male/handmaiden option the only way?

PCgamemods is most likely dead forevermore. Fortunately, google's cached pages allows mods to be retrieved. As to your question, stoffe made a mod that allows the Handmaiden to join the party of female PC's. You can find it here. (http://www.algonet.se/~stoffe/handmaiden4femexiles12.rar)

On another note, the moderators frown on frown on threads about pcgamemods being down.

What Emperor Devon said.

Since we had a great number of "pcgm is down" threads over the past weeks, we are directing any link requests to this thread: http://www.lucasforums.com/showthread.php?t=167699)